Adaptation of Lives

Marriage is great. It really is. It's fun, romantic, totally adventurous, and exciting. And it's also hard. Both Wes and I admitted to this before we got married. We knew it would be difficult to meshe our two lives and living regimens togther. But how difficult was yet to be seen until it actually happened. I mean, you can only prepare so much for something that you've haven't yet encountered. Marriage is one of those "things." But it's so much bigger than preparing for, say the Olympics. So much bigger...

Let's take the way I, Amanda, enjoy my evening shower. I don't actually dry off immediately, but wait several minutes before doing so. I wash my face, apply lotion, enjoy the cleanliness. Wes, on the other hand, dries off fairly immediately, after he enjoys the first few seconds after the shower. Different yet, but in the end, the same result appears...two dry people.

This is a very small fraction of the difficulty in merging two lives together, but still important nevertheless. It reminds us that the small things can and will cause dissension from time to time. They will cause arguements (the shower doesn't right now, but hey, who knows...there could be a riot in the bathroom sometime in the future :), and frustration. But as Billy Chia once wrote in a recent blog post, a marriage without arguments is a marriage without passion. How true of a statement that is. Passion is what drives us to love. I am deeply passionate about my husband, as he is about me. So we'll take a dose of an arguement from to time. It's good for us!

The Place Where We Find Ourselves

June 23rd, 2007

Wes and I are recently married and we are so enjoying the ride so far. We know it won't be this blissful 100% of the time. We even realize that at times, it's going to be the most difficult thing we ever face. But it is what we make of it. We have to work hard, fight for the passion, keep mystery alive, and continue to grow in many levels of intimacy.

And so our countdown is complete. No more planning, organizing, ensuring everyone has what they need to do their "thang." And although it was somewhat stressful, we sort of miss the wedding day itself. I mean, we planned for months for this one day, and it was over in a few hours. I sort of want to "go back" and watch it as a spectator. Enjoy it from every angle. That would be a pretty nice wedding gift.

And since our planning is complete, it gives us some more free time to work on this blog. Wes and I are both bloggers, and I plan on keeping up "Mandolin's Musician." But we wanted something to share together. One place where we can bring our thoughts and words collectively. This is what we came up with...bar stools and other stuff for sale. We're fans of bar stools and stuff on sale. We look forward to being creative, definitely random, and we'll throw in some fun "Seinfeld" references. Isn't that snazy, Mr. Jon Voight?

Check you later...